Getting to Know All The Parts of Yourself with Juliana Wexler
Juliana is back on TTL to talk about letting go of what our lives looked like pre-pandemic and readjusting to a changed world with a deeper understanding of ourselves from a lot of alone time.
Juliana was raised in San Diego by two psychologists who parented largely by trying to understand her every move. Never quite resonating with the laid-back Californian surfer culture, she headed out east to the University of Michigan. Always fascinated by how systems work, she folded a pre-med education into her own customized major that evaluated the disparities and inequities in the U.S. healthcare system. Professionally, her 20s took her to Manhattan, where she worked her way up and out of various healthcare startups. Personally, her 20s were a time of trying to fit into a mold of a person that she desperately wanted to be.
However, at 30, she realized all the ways the people and systems around her, paired with her own limiting beliefs, kept her small and confined. This was when she finally began to recognize her own intuition and started following that little voice that had been ignored for too long. Suddenly divorced at 30, she found herself deeply questioning every aspect of her life. It was through the dismantling of all aspects of the life she had previously built that she began the process of coming home to herself.
She is the founder of Parama, where she guides individuals and companies in compassionate navigation of transitions, difficult conversations, and negotiations. She helps foster improved communication and the building of reciprocal relationships with her “Conscious Confrontation” method.
In this show, we talk about:
Outsourcing your power versus trusting yourself
Discerning the feeling of intuition versus fear in the body
Identifying the behaviors that dull your intuition
Abstaining from vices leading to feeling more emotions
Pathologizing emotions and overidentifying with our diagnoses
Getting to know a new spectrum of emotions in the absence of antidepressants
Reframing deep feeling as superpower instead of a weakness
Anxious attachment being akin to having a fast metabolism for love
Getting stuck in fight-or-flight when the stress response is not complete
Cultivating a relationship with the multiple parts of yourself
Addressing burnout that presents at a young age
Getting curious about the link between trauma and health issues
Creating a safe container for unpacking trauma
Seeing the world through our own projections
Developing self-worth to stop relying on external validations
Coming out of a quarantine cocoon as a sensitive person
Learning to just be in the world versus having to do